Learn about The Cow What is the difference between transforming anger and anger management? About our workshops that go beyond anger management and enable transformation Leonard Scheff, Teacher and Author Testimonials Resources CONTACT Scheduling Anger Transformation Workshops Testimonials Kind words from Anger Transformation Workshop participants and readers of The Cow in The Parking Lot "Why didn't anyone tell me this 30 years ago?" "Thanks for a wonderful workshop. It was astute, fast and filled with aha's. I think everyone got it one way or the other." "A life altering experience." "Its so simple and important, I don't understand why I didn't know it." "I think that what I have learned is that I can control my anger instead of the other way around." "Your seminar re-directed thirty years' worth of unproductive (and unsuccessful) handling of my anger. I am no shining example of your teachings, however, I can honestly say that your seminar made me cognizant of myself as the source of my anger for the first time. The most important way it impacted my life was that I made a conscious decision to stop flying off the handle and screaming at my young children, and to my amazement, the results were immediate. It was very humbling to see how mom's calmness had a positive, lasting ripple effect on the whole family. So from the time I began accepting accountability for my temper, the level of anger, as well as its frequency and duration, diminished. I have become happier, less rigid about my thoughts and goals, more forgiving with definitions of "right" and "wrong". Instead of instantly yelling at the kids for getting paint all over themselves, I'm more inclined now to put the "crisis" into perspective, smile, and actually join in the fun. I still have my moments, but in my heart of hearts I no longer fell the shame of thinking that my kids are fearful of me and my reactive temper." Nancy H 2008 Workshop Participant Comments from speaker evaluation forms from a workshop / seminar at the Florida Bar Convention in Orlando "I thought the exercises and visualizations were very effective. Very enlightening seminar." "The presentation was extremely enlightening. I will use what I learned in my personal and professional life. This should be part of a requirement for all lawyers." "I thought it was fantastic! I just wish it could be longer. It made me think." "This is the best seminar that I have attended in years." "Captivating -- the 3 hours flew by. Excellent use of illustrative examples / parables. This course should be required as 3rd year law school as well as PWP." "Awesome. Great -- Very much usable. Looking forward to applying the information." "(Scheff) was very careful to speak to his audience. It was very helpful and will give me a great deal to think about." "Very useful to set a fresh perspective and some new tools to counteract my harmful habits and attitudes. Great stories." "(Scheff) made many excellent points. Applying this will be the challenge. The committee is to be commended for making this program a part of the annual meeting." Reviews and testimonials about The Cow in The Parking Lot One of the best books I've ever read on anger. It’s lucid, comprehensive, and filled with valuable insights. Readers will discover not only an effective approach to overcoming anger, but the wisdom and methods to achieve a profound inner transformation -- a life less troubled by destructive emotions, a life of greater happiness. Dr. Howard C. Cutler Co-author with His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama of The Art of Happiness Drawing on the Buddhism's profound understanding of the mind, this book provides many insights and revelations about reducing anger and creating greater happiness in your life. John Tarrant Roshi Author of Bring Me the Rhinoceros and Other Zen Koans That Will Save Your Life Anger makes us blind, deaf, dumb and stupid. This book will help readers to reclaim their proper sight, speech, hearing and intelligence. David Schneider Senior teacher in Shambhala, editor of Essential Zen and author of Street Zen The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger offers one of the best titles available on anger management. It's packed with insights and techniques that advocate getting calm instead of angry, and comes form a trial attorney who used anger to fuel his fiery courtroom presence. Buddhist wisdom permeates a powerful survey of what provokes anger and how to turn it aside. Midwest Book Review Oregon, Wisconsin Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand, Scheff has created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step by step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with a new found happiness. Clinton Books New Jersey, 2011 What I found was a book called The Cow in the Parking Lot...it promised a Buddhist approach to anger, but one that did not require religious belief, nor would conflict with one's current belief system. The promise of a peaceful letting go was very attractive to me, not to mention I was in a questioning mood. This book literally changed my life. The Buddhist philosophy as explained in this book not only gave me what I needed to change the way I dealt with life and my family, but it fit much better the personal philosophy I'd developed over years of experience with just plain life. Christian Buddhists discussion participant Tricycle.com, 2011 This book is potentially life changing if it's message is taken to heart. I plan to reread it more than once. Sherri Amazon Review, 2011 My therapist lent this book to me because one of her other patients had been so impressed with the book that they gave her a copy (the one I am now reading). Other than being well-recommended, I love that it treats anger as an everyday emotion which not even the Dalai Lama is entirely without. I am only on page 33 and loving it already. I have just ordered 2 copies for my siblings. I also never considered the anger I was expressing in my relationships, and now am better able to see my own role in our conflicts. I started to read it mainly because of family issues, but I can see it improving all aspects of my life with this new self-awareness. Charlene Ronquillo Amazon Review, 2011 The Cow in the Parking Lot is among the five most beneficial books I have ever read! Other books quoted in this easily read and understood text had previously helped me "overcome" anger. This book helped me to actually transcend that anger. By "transcend" I mean that the anger doesn't arise and therefore does not need to be overcome. While based largely on Buddhist principles, this is not a book about religion and not a promotion of any religion. It is a practical approach to handling a destructive human emotion. The approach will to appeal believers of all faiths (as well as non-believers). Rod W, Los Angeles, California Amazon Review, 2010 ©2010-2011 transforminganger.com / All Rights Reserved